Is It Possible That, If You Make A Choice And Get Lead Off Your Path, You’ll Limit Yourself?

Last holiday season a relative was visiting my mom. I’d heard my mom talk about a few things, which, coupled with what I saw at the Thanksgiving dinner, were inauspicious signs.

My concern was that this person wasn’t making life choices for himself and that, at this stage in his life, it could lead to his exit (death).

Sure enough, within a couple of weeks he went downhill fast and a month later had passed.

Yes, I saw death coming and, one of the things that most caught my attention was the fact that I also saw that, well before Thanksgiving, this had started. He’d had a continuous headache, but no illness — still, his choices had set his path some time ago.

He hadn’t made the choice. What choice is that?

What I See

As a teacher of spirituality, I’m always Sherlocking life as best I can. Toltecs use the word stalking, but most people understand that, like Sherlock who knew what happened, how and why, Sherlocking, means seeking to have the greatest awareness about as much as possible.

So, I sherlocked this event. What was most significant to me was that this was an adventurous man who would have liked to live longer. However, he had several failed marriages, and having retired, a true purpose or passion hadn’t replaced a central focus in life. Instead, he’d taken up a couple interests and tried to convince himself that these would bring him meaning and make up for some of his past.

Unfortunately, this isn’t the way meaning and purpose work. We don’t get to make the best choice possible and have that fulfill us. There is no replacing what is authentically your passion and purpose.

The Life Purpose Challenge

Mind you, my relative was out of options; he was doing his best. There is little help or guidance on how to truly create a meaningful life for yourself. There is no “Handbook For Life,” If you don’t know what stirs your soul and you don’t know what your genuine passions are, then what do you do? Are you left with no recourse?

That’s the other thing: I saw that, by choosing to try to “help” others and focus outside of himself, my relative lead himself astray. For some helping others is their authentic calling, but not necessarily for everyone. For some, working alone and being an author, a scientist or a gardener indirectly helps others.

We are meant to focus on ourselves, and not having done so, I believe he ran out of life — he wasn’t done living, but he was out of steam. He loved life and had things he wanted to do, but they weren’t enough to counter the parts of his life, like his failed marriages, where things hadn’t been what he’d wanted. Work had been a successful area, but otherwise, like his marriages, my impression was that he enjoyed little fulfillment.

No matter how optimistic and fun-loving he was, I believe that he couldn’t make up for the parts of his life where he’d let himself down.

No, it’s not to say that you have to make life be what you want it to be. That doesn’t work. We can’t force anything to be what we want, and even when we can, it doesn’t last.

Breathe Life Into Your Life

Life doesn’t make itself wonderful for you. Everyone has limitations, issues, and challenges: everyone also has opportunities.

Ultimately, though, problems and opportunities aren’t what life is really about. Smart people work through the difficulties and recognize their opportunities. The choice requires more.

More than this, you have to ‘breathe life into your life.’ Life is wonderful all on it’s own when you are observing the sun setting over the ocean. However, based on your choices, your life will bloom like a bouquet of flowers or leave you feeling like you have no blossoms.

In other words, if you don’t create some magic on your own, no one is going to create it for you. If you don’t seek your own purpose and meaning, then your own life will- like it did to my relative- feel like it let you down. More precisely, you’ll let yourself down. You can try to be happy about your life, but no amount of trying will counter how you genuinely feel.

So, Feel Empowered, Make The Choice

The choice is to own your life. To act like you are the CEO of your life. To set out to balance what you can influence in life and what you cannot in order to yield a life well-lived; a life with purpose and dominion. To listen to the guidance that aids you and unplug the false safety, security and beliefs your ego uses to guide you.

Dominion is defined online as “A territory, usually of considerable size, in which a single rulership holds sway.”

Like a king or queen, you should be the sovereign of your own life. Also like a king or queen, as sovereign, you are meant to hold a connection to divine help and guidance. Of course, your ‘territory’ would be your life. Being sovereign means looking after the welfare, prosperity and growth of the people. It would mean taking care of yourself.

How do you connect to the divine? In life, we all have help, an Unseen Guidance Team (UGT). When you take the time to connect, to meditate, pray and listen, you will find the help you seek. This is a group of your guides, your Soul, Source or whatever you call this force — though it can also include a human advisor or coach too. Your UGT (and maybe a human advisor) knows the choices you should make for yourself and that will bring meaning and purpose and movement to your life.

Working with your UGT, coupled with Sherlocking your life, will help you have a different experience. Someone who chooses to be soverign of themselves is making The Choice. In this co-creative position, your perspective, mindset and life choices will be elevated.

When The Choices Make You

Again, school and our society don’t teach us how to become co-creators or make soul-filled choices. Most people don’t know how to teach this — we have to find it for ourselves. When someone who has no direction and doesn’t know how to make life meaningful, as the years go by, life can become empty, whether you are a teenager, in your twenties or your fifties. Without your own UGT, it is easy to let life make the choices for you. Unfortunately, this often means that you are coming from your ego. Ego based choices hold limited information or wisdom.

Seek Your UGT

That UGT is here, waiting for you to connect. Seek it out by meditating, journaling, going on walks in nature. Develop a connection through meditation or doing processes to increase your ability to ‘hear’ or receive guidance. Work with a spiritual advisor or coach who can assist you in developing your ability to communicate and connect with your team.

Doing so will enable you to come to the table of life, if you will, to meet with that team and co-create a life in which, as soverign, you will be pleased and have purpose.

Your choice will help your monarchy rein with prosperity, expansion and divine joy.